Editorial About Lying

Ever been asked "How do I look like in this dress?" by a close friend? Ever responded by saying "Wow. You look terrific and your body looks incredible!", even though you know they look bad in it? This is done usually to make our love ones feel better and because we simply think it's best to say this. This little lie is like many other lies that can hurt a relationship.
I think lying is bad, but honestly I think that it is sometimes necessary. I don't like to be lied to, but if it's necessary for someone to lie to me in order for me not to get hurt DEEPLY, I will be okay with it. Lots of people lie in order to keep themselves out of trouble or to benefit them or others. Lying too often is bad and lying to affect others is too. I think that lying in general is bad, but I think it is sometimes the best choice.
"Lying is communication with the intention of creating a false belief. A sarcastic statement which is not intended or expected to create a false belief is not a lie, even if it creates a false belief. If a statement is true, but the communicator believes it is false, it still counts as a lie."(www.benbest.com)
People justify lying to enemies because they tend to think it has no value, but they also justify lying to love ones because it has a value. I have lied to friends to make them feel better. I know it is wrong, but I just couldn't hurt them, but now that I think about it I am hurting them more by lying to them. For now on I'm going to do my best not to lie to them because they simply don't deserve it.
According to truthaboutdeception.com, people are more susceptible to the lies about a lover than the lies of a stranger and people do not like to acknowledge this. I agree with this. When we are in love with someone and/or trust someone a lot, we believe them more. When there is evidence that that type of person is lying we don't want to recognize and accept it because of our love and trust for them. I think this is why people are easily hurt when they are in love.
Lies can break lots of trust in a relationship and trust in a relationship is greatly needed for it to be healthy. When a person lies to me about something huge in order to benefit them, it is hard for me to trust them again, even if it is told to benefit me. It greatly depends on what it is though.
I am against lying, but yet I know I will continue to do it.
"We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger." ~Tad Williams
By:Rosalba Cruz

Through myspace a love can form.

On a rainy day, Diana decided to stay home since the weather was bad. She was in her room listening to music and on myspace. She came upon a picture of a guy with a cute baby face, nice smile and eyes to die for. He immediately caught her attention. She didn't know anything about him, so she decided to add him. They started getting to know each other more over myspace. They soon exchanged numbers and started to talk on the phone instead. They soon decided to take it to the next level.
It was around 8 O' Clock when Christian went to pick up Diana, as they had planned out. Christian honked and Diana got really nervous, while she fixed up her eyeliner real quick. She hurried out the door, but trying to to seem desperate. When Diana walked up to Christian she immediately felt as if he was the for her. They gave each other a hug and got in the car.
Christian took Diana to SouthCenter to watch a movie. The movie they watched was "Transformers". Diana states that this is now her favorite movie since she first saw it with Christian.
On June 15, 2009 Diana and Christian were hanging out at around 6pm. Christian felt the urge of asking her out and Diana was dying for this to happen. Christian asked Diana out. Diana got so shy and immediately said yes. Even though Diana says that Christian is not her first love, she loves him more than she did love her first love.
She claims that the most special moment she had with Christian was when they both went to Alki Beach. It was a beautiful saturday afternoon, as they sat on the grass. They watched the sunset together, while talking and eating a strawberry ice cream cone. This is her most special moment because she had never seen the sunset with anyone and she just felt so loved.
Time went by and Christian changed, in both good and bad ways. For example, ways he changed for good was that he became sweeter, nicer, more respectful and has loved her more. Ways in which he changed for worse was that he became a really insecure boyfriend and started to spend less time with Diana.
The most hardest moment they have been through was their breakup. Diana decided to break up with Christian since he was a really jealous boyfriend. Diana grew irritated and couldn't take it anymore. It hurt both of them, but Diana considered this to be the best choice. "It was hard to break up with him, but dang he got me annoyed" says Diana. Christian admitted that he felt insecure, but convinced Diana to give him one more chance. Diana took him back.
Diana to this point in unsure whether she wants to marry him. She states that she loves him a lot, but that they've been together for nine months, and to her that ain't enough. She wants to spend more time with him before thinking about marriage. "We do talk about our future and having a family, but that is as far as I want to go right now." stated Diana.
"With him I feel protected and loved".